Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Prodigal Spouse?

I do like to share happy things, ways to save and things to craft on here, but blogging was also suppossed to be an outlet for me to write.  And today I am going to do just that....this is an ugly post.......so if you don't want to continue and only like the warm fuzzies of my life, you may not want to read on.

What do you do when you find out the one you love and have given more then 15 years to is lying.  When there is some sort of secret relationship he is hiding from you, making you feel guilty that you don't trust him when his actions don't support the trust he wants from you.

This morning all the pieces fell together and I know now who my husband has been talking to.  I don't know if it is a physical relationship or not, I don't know what they talk about but at this point, it is someone we had trouble with long before we got saved, and it is someone i asked him not to talk to, and certainly to promise he would never lie about it.  I desperately want to facebook the woman privately and ask her to stop communicating with my husband.  He has been hiding things and acting wierd since Easter.  I told him if I acted like that over my cell phone and texting he would be angry all he said was yep you are right.  He swore though he wasn't talking to anyone that the message he got yesterday was from some guy he works with...he is so full of it, i found the girl on face book. 

I confronted him, he admitted to one coversation a long time ago, said he never kept her number but when i matched the info in his phone to her facebook it just fits, i told him i knew what was going on and didn't appreciate the lie, and now he won't talk to me.  I guess we will see what happens when he comes home.  I know what God wants and it is this

Hold fast to the example of the father.  Remain faithful to God and to your covenant.I don't know if I am strong enough to do that though, I need so much prayer right now.  I know this battle is God's that only he will be able to change my spouse...but am i strong enough to be continually lied to, and to sit here and care for him and the kids and act like nothing is wrong.....I honestly don't know.

Even if it's not a physical relationship...there is lying and hiding and trust is broken.  Now I feel broken a little. I guess I should not be on here but in my Bible and in prayer.  I need some Godly counsel right now.


  1. You are in my prayers, MJ.
    It is hard to remember when going through trials but keep believing that the Lord uses situations in our life to shape us and to find our strength in Him. Keep looking to God. Is there someone who you can talk to? Maybe a pastor or someone that you can reach out to for counsel?

  2. MJ, as I read this, my heart broke for you. Please get some help from a godly lady in your church. You should not go through this alone. I am praying for you.

  3. I wanted to thank you guys for the kind words and prayers, and advice. I did get a little counsel from someone in my church, i also did some online research and I am armed with some scriptures to read and pray. Things are not instantly fixed, continued prayers will be needed. It's one day, at times one moment at a time. I appreciate you all!