So I am still fairly new to blogging, and I don't know how to add buttons to my blog etc, but I wanted to share with everyone something new that I discovered over at http://www.exploringdomesticity.blogspot.com/
They do a "Tips and Tricks Tuesday: share our healthy living / fitness tips and tricks or to look for support, guidance, or inspiration from others to make this journey a little smoother"
It is where I will be looking for some new tricks and tips and probably sharing my Transformation Thursday info.....(hmmmm maybe I should change the transformation info to Tuesdays....hmmmm food for thought)
Anyway check it out....maybe you have been there and have some of your own tips and tricks to share.
I was curious does anyone have advice for surviving the PMS week. Or to battle against emotional eating. I have not been good to myself today...having a hard time dealing with the passing of the cat which I believe the emotions of it are being intensified by PMS. And to top it off I fell this morning hurt my knee, and then I broke the portable dvd player. So I was destructive with my eating (telling myself I deserved a treat after such a tough beginning to the day etc etc) and had something I shouldn't have. I had a small frappe chocolate chip from Mcdonalds....when I entered that into my fitness pal, that sucker has 530 calories!!!!! and I had already drank it....no give backs......So please please feel free to leave me advice......
Tuesday, September 17, 2013
Monday, September 16, 2013
A gift to the hubby, and a blessing he has decided to pass on .....
So there has been an interesting development here the last week or so.....as I have mentioned in a month it is our 15th wedding anniversary. Well the day after that is my husbands birthday. Hubs will be 43. His cousin was selling something and since we have been budgeting (will share more budget info soon) we had the money to make a purchase, it was something my husband has wanted for a long time and honestly, I am guilty of not appreciating him....so when he expressed his interest, we poured over the budget together, decided to not take a trip to Disney at like he had suggested and we were planning for in January, and instead he bought this from his cousin:
What can I say, it's been 15 years, we have never been able to purchase toys...we were to busy being wreckless and careless without any sense of planning, and I want my hubby to know I do appreciate him, but we have both said this is his birthday, anniversary, and probably Christmas gift too. I am excited to see him excited. And to be honest I want to ride it too. He has to take the course or something and get his permit to be able to drive it on the highway, and he has been giving the kids little rides around the shop at work, and me too. I like it I look forward to eventually having some romantic rides. We may still take a trip to Florida with the kids, it just may be in the Spring instead.
Now onto another interesting development in the heart of my husband. We are a two car family, but for years, we haven't always needed two because he has had some kind of job that offers a company vehicle of some sort. Well at the present he has the tow truck and he is on call six days a week anyway, and I have been driving our car because it is better on gas then the Ford f150. A couple months back there was a mechanical issue with the truck, and the hubs has just decided it is not a priority to get it fixed for whatever reason. The truck does still run, but we are not 100 percent if it is just an exhaust leak in the truck or what but we have not driven it since the car got fixed for the second time a couple months ago. Anyway my husband loved this truck, we just payed it off in February, but as I have mentioned since we are keeping our home on purpose and with a purpose now, we have been decluttering. One of the men who came to get some of the things we were giving away, takes items to bless other families in need. He has a large van that has been breaking down and cost him over 130.00 to fill.
This gentleman came to the house to get some more of my clutter last week, and I had to leave for work, but hubby remained behind this time, and said he met Mr. Jay this time when he was picking up the stuff and said he noticed he was struggling with his van and wished there as something he could do. Said I wish we could afford to give him our truck . I looked at my husband and said you know i was thinking the same thing a couple weeks ago, but I didn't dare bring it up to my husband because I knew there was no way he would give up his truck. And I said technically we can "afford" to give away the truck because we don't owe anything on it anymore. So since hubs and I both had the same idea, we decided to pray about it and see if this is what the Lord wanted. Today we called Mr. Jay, had him come look at the truck and told him what we were thinking.
So my husband has decided to give away his Ford F150 to a man who is about doing the Lords work, I couldn't be more proud of him......I have to finish getting our stuff out of it, and then Mr. Jay has agreed to take ownership and will be making the necessary repairs. After all we have not been using it, so i guess it was just a piece of clutter in a sense, and I know we could have traded it or sold it, but we just don't believe that is what we were supposed to do.
So what about you, got anything sitting around that your heart is being prompted to let go of? Mad love to my hubs for giving himself to God's will.
(unfortunately today took a sad turn....on an off and very sad note, we came home this afternoon to find out mama cat (swirl) had apparently died from complications of her spay surgery i guess, i contacted the spca told them something was wrong wanted them to check her out and they called me back today, but apparently mama died while we were at work. My son is heartbroken. If I had know I would not have had her spayed or I would have kept a kitten. But we have consoled our son who is heart broken, and we had an impromptu family night in our room and watched Wreck it Ralph) I hope none of you had any unpleasant surprises today, and only super awesome blessings.!!!)
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What can I say, it's been 15 years, we have never been able to purchase toys...we were to busy being wreckless and careless without any sense of planning, and I want my hubby to know I do appreciate him, but we have both said this is his birthday, anniversary, and probably Christmas gift too. I am excited to see him excited. And to be honest I want to ride it too. He has to take the course or something and get his permit to be able to drive it on the highway, and he has been giving the kids little rides around the shop at work, and me too. I like it I look forward to eventually having some romantic rides. We may still take a trip to Florida with the kids, it just may be in the Spring instead.
Now onto another interesting development in the heart of my husband. We are a two car family, but for years, we haven't always needed two because he has had some kind of job that offers a company vehicle of some sort. Well at the present he has the tow truck and he is on call six days a week anyway, and I have been driving our car because it is better on gas then the Ford f150. A couple months back there was a mechanical issue with the truck, and the hubs has just decided it is not a priority to get it fixed for whatever reason. The truck does still run, but we are not 100 percent if it is just an exhaust leak in the truck or what but we have not driven it since the car got fixed for the second time a couple months ago. Anyway my husband loved this truck, we just payed it off in February, but as I have mentioned since we are keeping our home on purpose and with a purpose now, we have been decluttering. One of the men who came to get some of the things we were giving away, takes items to bless other families in need. He has a large van that has been breaking down and cost him over 130.00 to fill.
This gentleman came to the house to get some more of my clutter last week, and I had to leave for work, but hubby remained behind this time, and said he met Mr. Jay this time when he was picking up the stuff and said he noticed he was struggling with his van and wished there as something he could do. Said I wish we could afford to give him our truck . I looked at my husband and said you know i was thinking the same thing a couple weeks ago, but I didn't dare bring it up to my husband because I knew there was no way he would give up his truck. And I said technically we can "afford" to give away the truck because we don't owe anything on it anymore. So since hubs and I both had the same idea, we decided to pray about it and see if this is what the Lord wanted. Today we called Mr. Jay, had him come look at the truck and told him what we were thinking.
So what about you, got anything sitting around that your heart is being prompted to let go of? Mad love to my hubs for giving himself to God's will.
(unfortunately today took a sad turn....on an off and very sad note, we came home this afternoon to find out mama cat (swirl) had apparently died from complications of her spay surgery i guess, i contacted the spca told them something was wrong wanted them to check her out and they called me back today, but apparently mama died while we were at work. My son is heartbroken. If I had know I would not have had her spayed or I would have kept a kitten. But we have consoled our son who is heart broken, and we had an impromptu family night in our room and watched Wreck it Ralph) I hope none of you had any unpleasant surprises today, and only super awesome blessings.!!!)
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Thursday, September 12, 2013
Transformation Thursday (the beginning)
So I thought I would start something new for accountability for myself, I have been working on the house and what not lately and trying to do a little crafting. As I have mentioned before my husband and I will be celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary in almost exactly one month. A year ago I had this idea to have romantic pictures of us taken, and in my head the idea was that I would be able to wear this sexy dress and show all the weight I hoped I would lose.
Well the end of that year is pretty much here, and I didn't keep or even work toward my goal much. I quit months ago. So my husband says that it isn't too late if it is important to me, to start now. (Although he loves me as I am no matter the shape and size) He says that he is certain I can make changes in even just the one month we have left before I want some pictures taken.
So I am going to start once a week logging my weight in on Thursdays and provide whatever updates there may be and see if there are any changes. I started by purchasing this:
I know I have vented about my weight before and I got some great tips and I completely plan on using them, and I don't expect this 5 day weight loss kit to be magic in a box or anything...I picked it up simply to give myself a starting idea I put my meals for a day in a bag and told myself when the food is gone, I am done eating for the day. That is it. If I eat it all by noon then too bad for me. So this is more to just give me some more helpful ideas and show me what a portion size is for the moment...I know I can make my own food and save money etc....but I wanted to set stricter limits on myself where there is no pot of spaghetti to go back to after I dished out my so called portion.
This was breakfast
Now the snack was not provided by Nutrisystem this is an Herbalife protein mix given to me by a friend that I have never used, and in an effort to be a better steward I want to use up what I have. Anyway I added a splash of coconut coffee creamer and some almond milk again.
I ate cheesy potatoes provided by nutrisystem for lunch and we grilled our own chicken on the grill the guy that works next to us has out back at work.
Dinner was lasagna with meat sauce.....
Well the end of that year is pretty much here, and I didn't keep or even work toward my goal much. I quit months ago. So my husband says that it isn't too late if it is important to me, to start now. (Although he loves me as I am no matter the shape and size) He says that he is certain I can make changes in even just the one month we have left before I want some pictures taken.
So I am going to start once a week logging my weight in on Thursdays and provide whatever updates there may be and see if there are any changes. I started by purchasing this:
I know I have vented about my weight before and I got some great tips and I completely plan on using them, and I don't expect this 5 day weight loss kit to be magic in a box or anything...I picked it up simply to give myself a starting idea I put my meals for a day in a bag and told myself when the food is gone, I am done eating for the day. That is it. If I eat it all by noon then too bad for me. So this is more to just give me some more helpful ideas and show me what a portion size is for the moment...I know I can make my own food and save money etc....but I wanted to set stricter limits on myself where there is no pot of spaghetti to go back to after I dished out my so called portion.
This was breakfast
That is a double chocolate muffin from nutrisystem with a glass of vanilla Almond milk...I did ok with that ate it around 8 am and didn't have my snack till about 2 hours later
I ate cheesy potatoes provided by nutrisystem for lunch and we grilled our own chicken on the grill the guy that works next to us has out back at work.
Dinner was lasagna with meat sauce.....
Ok to me that is the smallest portion of lasagna ever...I am sure if I had made a big pan my portion would have been twice the size of that and I may have went back for more....but I behaved myself ate the lasagna and had some cabbage with it......and ate my nutrisystem cookies for dessert. So far not too bad. I drank six glasses of water today. Big improvement for me. Honestly it is 8 pm my head says I want to eat, but I am not going to. I hope to go back to the YMCA to go swimming at least twice a week starting tomorrow night again. We will see. I am trying not to have any expectations, just to learn new things, and see what happens, but really try and take better care of my body....
Ok and here is to baring it all......here is one of those embarrassing side profile pics that really let it all hang out, my hubby took it, and he I told him I want you to take one of those horrible side profile pics, and he sweetly and seriously says...you can't possibly take a bad picture you are always beautiful....yep maybe I will keep him around for another 15......
I am weighing in at 269 today.....and I logged my food intake completely honest on fitness pal at www.myfitnesspal.com
Today I ate 1709 calories but I still have 234 remaining.....and I need to reduce my sodium and sugar intake according to the log. We will see what it looks like next week, and if I can honestly keep my eating in check.
Friday, September 6, 2013
in my neck of the woods
we have been busy we went camping for Labor Day weekend...and I would love to share some pictures with you, I even remembered to actually take the camera and make sure it had batteries in it....but what was missing? The memory card so that idea is a bust. But overall we had a good time. The kids had a little bit of bad attitude off and on and one or two meltdown moments for the two year old...but overall it was a good time. We enjoyed the pool. We packed up a day early because of the weather. Hubs didn't want me to have to pack up alone and put wet gear in the car. And we got packed up just before the storm hit....so his idea was awesome.
When we were preparing to go camping we found some sleeping bags and blankets that had been in a closet and just really needed to be washed after being stored for so long. When we moved the blankets we found this.
What we found are those big gaping holes that even though you can't tell because of the light in the picture lead to the outside of our house. The wall was built on a row of cinder blocks or something and you could see outside daylight. That same day we moved the blankets we found a dead baby snake in here....umm i bet that is how alot of the mice and maybe that baby snake got in......And why the room is either so drastically hot or cold. So if a little crack being sealed in a window or something can help with heating and cooling costs, we are hoping that this winter sealing these holes will make a difference in our utility expenses.
I went to lowes and bought this stuff for 3.72 a can. It took 4 cans to fill the holes.
Here is the finished project.......
And that led me to clean out one storage bin from that closet and i will be able to reorganize it a little and get some other things in there that need to go in it. One of our outside storage areas is flooding.
We also picked up a freezer this week so we can start building up our food supply. I bought some meats on sale at Food Lion this week and didn't realize there was no room for them in the regular freezer. So Hubs said we needed a freezer bottom line...go get one....so I did. This week our son went back to school...he started second grade. We have been working on getting our two year old to sleep in her own room and not with us or her brother. We also went shopping this week on our day off and picked up an outfit or two our anniversary photo shoot that will be happening in one month. I am not sure if the photographer is backing out on me, but in the event that she does, I am working on a back up plan. It is also my husband's birthday so I am brainstorming all kind of ideas for celebrating etc, but the budget is getting tight, because work is slowing down for the hubs now that all the vacationers have gone home. Oh and I almost forgot we said goodbye to the kittens who were six weeks old.....and mama Swirl has been officially spayed so no more babies for her. That is our week in a nutshell.
So what have you been up to.. I would love to hear about your week. When winter comes, does your budget decrease or expenses increase? How do you cope?
When we were preparing to go camping we found some sleeping bags and blankets that had been in a closet and just really needed to be washed after being stored for so long. When we moved the blankets we found this.
I went to lowes and bought this stuff for 3.72 a can. It took 4 cans to fill the holes.
Here is the finished project.......
We also picked up a freezer this week so we can start building up our food supply. I bought some meats on sale at Food Lion this week and didn't realize there was no room for them in the regular freezer. So Hubs said we needed a freezer bottom line...go get one....so I did. This week our son went back to school...he started second grade. We have been working on getting our two year old to sleep in her own room and not with us or her brother. We also went shopping this week on our day off and picked up an outfit or two our anniversary photo shoot that will be happening in one month. I am not sure if the photographer is backing out on me, but in the event that she does, I am working on a back up plan. It is also my husband's birthday so I am brainstorming all kind of ideas for celebrating etc, but the budget is getting tight, because work is slowing down for the hubs now that all the vacationers have gone home. Oh and I almost forgot we said goodbye to the kittens who were six weeks old.....and mama Swirl has been officially spayed so no more babies for her. That is our week in a nutshell.
So what have you been up to.. I would love to hear about your week. When winter comes, does your budget decrease or expenses increase? How do you cope?
Thursday, August 29, 2013
An interesting evening.
For the first time in this house, I feel heard. My husband suddenly was helpful tonight when he realized I was overwhelmed with getting ready for some last minute activities that we have decided to do for the Labor Day weekend. He helped cook dinner (spaghetti) and here he is later
Yesterday was our day off and it was to my surprise super productive, we cleaned out our car....which despite my best efforts to clean out over the past couple weeks....we still pulled out two shopping bag fulls of trash, and three baskets and two small bags of things that had to be brought in and gone through. No more stuff in the car. Whatever we take in it in the morning has to come out in the afternoon when we get home. Oy! Hubs also stopped to a gas station and vacuumed it out. We have been struggling with seeing new cars and know we cannot afford one, so we are taking steps to clean up one of the ones we own. The truck is still in need of repair, we found a shop that gives free estimates, but we need to get it towed there. (we are not paying our boss to tow it.) One thing at a time right?
So did you have any pleasant surprises this week. Any saving of money this week? I will have to let you guys know how our budget plan is going soon. Thanks for stopping by!!!!!
coming in saying he wants to make banana bread when i was about to make some. (He has never ever done that in 15 years of marriage) He has helped with dinner before but it is few and far in between. All i can say is all the prayers are being heard and answered. I was feeling pretty desperate late last week and earlier this week, but trying to perservere and surrender my right to be appreciated etc. Tonight was a nice surprising break. The hubs even folded two loads of laundry and got his own clothes out for our event this weekend ( I am usually the one who gets them or I have to nag and nag to get action) What a refreshing concept in this house. Working together. Without anger or nagging to get it....It had to be God. That is all i can say.
Here is the finished banana bread
It is so moist and delicious!!!! We used a recipe from a Taste of Home Cookbook my grandmother bought me for Christmas a couple years ago. In organizing the laundry room, I found it and put it up on the shelf in the kitchen so I could actually use it (imagine that actually using something I have...lol)
If interested here is the recipe.
Special Banana Nut Bread
3/4 cup butter softened
8 oz package of cream cheese softened
2 cups sugar
2 eggs
4 medium bananas (i threw in six because i had some that were going bad)
1 TBSP of vanilla
3 cups all purpose flour
1/2 tsp baking powder
1/2 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp salt
We threw it all in a bowl, the Hubs mixed it with our beaters, and we poured it into a greased large cake pan (i don't own any loaf pans) and baked in a preheated oven at 350 for 45 minutes. Very Yum!
So we are gearing up for one final (unplanned) summer event before my son goes back to school. It was a last minute idea by the Hubs to go camping, and he found a local campground (from having to do a tow call there) that has a pool and is not much more than our state park we went to a few weeks ago. So we can go together as a family but be close enough to work (because hubs is always on call and cannot stray far from his "home" area and I do have to work the office this holiday weekend)
So in order to go camping this time, we needed to pick up some gear. We went to Sears and were prepared to pay sticker price for an instant tent and a screen house....instead surprise surprise when we got to the register, our cost was 50.00 less than sticker price. Apparently there was an unadvertised sale...so we got an air matress also with the money we saved.
Yesterday was our day off and it was to my surprise super productive, we cleaned out our car....which despite my best efforts to clean out over the past couple weeks....we still pulled out two shopping bag fulls of trash, and three baskets and two small bags of things that had to be brought in and gone through. No more stuff in the car. Whatever we take in it in the morning has to come out in the afternoon when we get home. Oy! Hubs also stopped to a gas station and vacuumed it out. We have been struggling with seeing new cars and know we cannot afford one, so we are taking steps to clean up one of the ones we own. The truck is still in need of repair, we found a shop that gives free estimates, but we need to get it towed there. (we are not paying our boss to tow it.) One thing at a time right?
So did you have any pleasant surprises this week. Any saving of money this week? I will have to let you guys know how our budget plan is going soon. Thanks for stopping by!!!!!
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Pitty Party
So I think I am finally over myself from last Fridays issues and being angry...Sunday Aunti P invited me to go bowling and we took our kids together, it was just 2.00 per game and I had my own shoes so we saved some funds there. It was a good time and a bit of a distraction from the things I was feeling.
To my surprise, I have not quit my job...I am still here....there is a time clock in the office now so there is no discrepancies with the time I am to get paid for. I still have not gotten Fridays paycheck but each day it is promised to be delivered. During the last 4 days though, I have unfortunately been throwing myself a pity party been angry at the world and rebellious and done nothing like a two year old I guess. My sinks are no longer shiny and I let chaos reign for the last couple of days. The only thing I did do was a load of laundry a day. I vegged out like everyone else and just did what I wanted. I know not the right heart attitude. I did give away some clutter though, I posted the stuff I wanted to yard sale on a Facebook online local site and gave it all away for free. Until we get the truck fixed, and I get my work time managed better, I don't have time to yardsales on a Saturday and the only other day I have is Wednesdays and I don't know how effective that would be.
So I gave away a car seat, two small tvs for recycling, and three very large bags of clothing and shoes. So the huge pile of junk in my office is starting diminish. I also gave away the posters I had for math from when I homeschooled.
So tomorrow is our day off. The last Wednesday before school starts that we will all be together as a family. I know we have errands to run. The hubs has new glasses to pick up at Sears, they had a 2 for 99.00 special. We tried to get him a discounted pair online before but they just didn't get the script right. So we are also picking up my prescription on the way and I will be ordering the special and getting two new pairs of glasses too!!! I like something with a little flair, I hope I can find something. I also know we will be going to my son's open house at school. Thanks for stopping by. I hope each of you are able to handle your emotions better than I did.
Starting over tonight, and shining my sinks, and playing catch up after my tantrum.
So I am feeling better pitty part is over. and hopefully things will get back on track. I was just so mad, I didn't want to do anything at all. Was ready to throw in the towel, Crazy right
To my surprise, I have not quit my job...I am still here....there is a time clock in the office now so there is no discrepancies with the time I am to get paid for. I still have not gotten Fridays paycheck but each day it is promised to be delivered. During the last 4 days though, I have unfortunately been throwing myself a pity party been angry at the world and rebellious and done nothing like a two year old I guess. My sinks are no longer shiny and I let chaos reign for the last couple of days. The only thing I did do was a load of laundry a day. I vegged out like everyone else and just did what I wanted. I know not the right heart attitude. I did give away some clutter though, I posted the stuff I wanted to yard sale on a Facebook online local site and gave it all away for free. Until we get the truck fixed, and I get my work time managed better, I don't have time to yardsales on a Saturday and the only other day I have is Wednesdays and I don't know how effective that would be.
So I gave away a car seat, two small tvs for recycling, and three very large bags of clothing and shoes. So the huge pile of junk in my office is starting diminish. I also gave away the posters I had for math from when I homeschooled.
So tomorrow is our day off. The last Wednesday before school starts that we will all be together as a family. I know we have errands to run. The hubs has new glasses to pick up at Sears, they had a 2 for 99.00 special. We tried to get him a discounted pair online before but they just didn't get the script right. So we are also picking up my prescription on the way and I will be ordering the special and getting two new pairs of glasses too!!! I like something with a little flair, I hope I can find something. I also know we will be going to my son's open house at school. Thanks for stopping by. I hope each of you are able to handle your emotions better than I did.
Starting over tonight, and shining my sinks, and playing catch up after my tantrum.
So I am feeling better pitty part is over. and hopefully things will get back on track. I was just so mad, I didn't want to do anything at all. Was ready to throw in the towel, Crazy right
Saturday, August 24, 2013
my hurt
So there was another episode at work yesterday. And it has left me wondering if this is what I am really supposed to be doing with my time and with my kids. I was a stay at home mom before and I will admit I have not always completely appreciated it, and I also had a best friend and unfortunately I let my friendship with her I guess be kind of like an idol in my life, I did whatever she wanted when she wanted, (my kids were always with me though I didn't neglect them or anything) but I did neglect my home. because she was my best friend I did whatever she wanted when she wanted, and it was usually at her place or an activity she wanted to do. I mean my husband was supportive never angry, he was happy that I was getting out of the house, taking the kids to do things, and sometimes my best friend and I got a lot of things done together. Then she went through what I guess is some kind of midlife crisis and threw her husband out and stopped doing anything she was supposed to for her family. And she began lying to me, so we don't talk much anymore. And when I started working I think it became clear that our relationship was about her mostly and the things she wanted to do, she was angry that I was not available for her anymore. I was disrupting her social life she said. I think I had let myself be really walked on by her.
Anyway so while I had stayed at home before I didn't really always take care of my home etc, I tried to do whatever everyone needed...everyone was always like well she just stays home what does she do, she should be able to do whatever we want her to do, and I really wanted to please and be there for others, but I left my family responsibilities fall to the wayside. I started working because my husband had lost his job which was our source of steady income, and when he got this new job, the pay was slow in the off season. When the office girl quit, I was offered the job that I have now, and told I could bring my children. We thought it was an answered prayer. We had been unable to pay our rent for a couple months, and with this job, I got to take the kids...best of both worlds right I still get to take care of the kids and make some extra money. It was April that I started this job. And it first I worked 7 days a week, it was tough but I took the kids so no one was neglected . I took the work phone home and even worked from home when I had too. Eventually I got two days a week off. My husband only gets one and actually it is not a whole day it's more like 12 hours on a Wednesday. We have been working to make the best of it. I am not saying my husband is out of the house 24/7 but he is on call which means he has to be home with his cell phone and tow truck in case he gets a call.
Current events at work brings me to two week ago...maybe three when my family took the camping trip. I actually took the whole week off, they needed me to cover, but my husband said no, I needed time off so he covered for me. Well during that time, we were accused of stealing a soda. There were cases of soda sitting in the office and one day one bottle just sprang a leak...it was so weird. Anyway my boss said we were stealing...(seriously one soda) anyway we offered to pay the 1.50 for the soda for the freak accident. And my husband told my boss to take all the sodas with him if he felt that way about the whole incident. So my boss came and took all the sodas, and while he was here he took 4 hours of paid time away from me. He said he had came by one day and the office was locked up before 3. I told him there was no way. That I had only left early on a Tuesday for a doctors appointment which they knew about and I did not put down to get paid for that time. So he took four hours off my paycheck. I was angry and hurt that he made all these implications...he talked down to and belittled me. He also made it very clear I would not longer receive compensation for errand running for him, or time spent working at home unless I was in this office I don't get paid for it. Fine, I stopped errand running, I don't drop papers off for him on Fridays anymore, and I no longer take the work phone home.
The next time I saw him he was so nice, he visited, went over the office, made some improvements, bought us all lunch.....it was great.
Then this week. I followed his orders, I texted him my hours every day from the office phone which I can only get access to when I am in the office (because I don't take it home anymore) My husband comes in yesterday afternoon (it was a bad one) Yesterday I went home at three. I get a phone call saying I need to go back to work there was a lady waiting to pick up her rental. Well there was no reservation on the schedule until tomorrow. But I loaded the kids back in the car, unlocked the fence and began making this ladies rental. Apparently the owners daughter had moved the reservation on a day I was off to Saturday we don't know why, but she would take not responsibility for her actions or say why she did it, but that it was somehow my fault. She is an 18 year old kid who had no business participating in her fathers business but she can do no wrong...and I was blamed for this misunderstanding. that was bad enough. I went to hook up this ladies rental she wanted a 6*12 trailer (if you have never tried to lift one they are so so heavy, I have even seen two grown men struggle with lifting one together) Anyway I have lifted one before though a few times. So I go to get this lady hooked up and I cant lift the trailer for some reason. I just couldn't do it yesterday...when we finally get it lifted it wont sit down on her trailer ball for some reason. So I have her move to a different trailer thinking one was broken...same problem.....It took an hour and a half to get her set up and out of here....she became impatient because of the problems. I hurt my back lifting the different trailers so many times, and the stupid trailer part fell on my finger and smashed it and I was bleeding everywhere. I felt embarrassed , incapable, and I was physically hurting as well. The icing on the cake was some people showed up to have a car released to them and here I am in tears and bleeding, can't get help to get the stupid trailer hooked up and six women are in my office to pick up one car. My finger was bleeding and hurting so bad that I could not even get the work phone out of my pocket to resolve the impounded car release issue. And then the lady is still coming in to tell me to quit standing there and get her trailer hooked up...never mind the blood dripping from my hand right.
So my poor husband finally shows up to help, but by then I had gotten the lady, the trailer, and the impounded car all out of here. he has no paycheck for me. My boss had decided after all this time he needs me to do some kind of special paper for him in order to get paid. I am the only one that has to do this. What am I supposed to think. I told Jimmy I texted from work each day my hours. To me it says he is implying that he does not trust me. And he is accusing me of still stealing time or something. So if my boss does not have a paycheck for me today, after all of the crap I have endured, worked hard to go out of my way to get his customers taken care of...we are the only ones now to work this office, my husband and I have agreed that I will quit. I want to wait till hubs gets his truck fixed because there is stuff here that I need to take home. We payed for the fridge and microwave here and replaced the stools. I don't want to give my boss anything for free at this point. I feel like he is an emotional abuser , like he likes to play games being nice one day and mean the next. The extra money is nice, we had an epic summer of activities with no guilt. Bills are paid, a tiny bit of money saved, but we are unsure if it worth the extra bull I am having to deal with. Hubs and I are praying.
I hope everyone had a better ending to their week.
Anyway so while I had stayed at home before I didn't really always take care of my home etc, I tried to do whatever everyone needed...everyone was always like well she just stays home what does she do, she should be able to do whatever we want her to do, and I really wanted to please and be there for others, but I left my family responsibilities fall to the wayside. I started working because my husband had lost his job which was our source of steady income, and when he got this new job, the pay was slow in the off season. When the office girl quit, I was offered the job that I have now, and told I could bring my children. We thought it was an answered prayer. We had been unable to pay our rent for a couple months, and with this job, I got to take the kids...best of both worlds right I still get to take care of the kids and make some extra money. It was April that I started this job. And it first I worked 7 days a week, it was tough but I took the kids so no one was neglected . I took the work phone home and even worked from home when I had too. Eventually I got two days a week off. My husband only gets one and actually it is not a whole day it's more like 12 hours on a Wednesday. We have been working to make the best of it. I am not saying my husband is out of the house 24/7 but he is on call which means he has to be home with his cell phone and tow truck in case he gets a call.
Current events at work brings me to two week ago...maybe three when my family took the camping trip. I actually took the whole week off, they needed me to cover, but my husband said no, I needed time off so he covered for me. Well during that time, we were accused of stealing a soda. There were cases of soda sitting in the office and one day one bottle just sprang a leak...it was so weird. Anyway my boss said we were stealing...(seriously one soda) anyway we offered to pay the 1.50 for the soda for the freak accident. And my husband told my boss to take all the sodas with him if he felt that way about the whole incident. So my boss came and took all the sodas, and while he was here he took 4 hours of paid time away from me. He said he had came by one day and the office was locked up before 3. I told him there was no way. That I had only left early on a Tuesday for a doctors appointment which they knew about and I did not put down to get paid for that time. So he took four hours off my paycheck. I was angry and hurt that he made all these implications...he talked down to and belittled me. He also made it very clear I would not longer receive compensation for errand running for him, or time spent working at home unless I was in this office I don't get paid for it. Fine, I stopped errand running, I don't drop papers off for him on Fridays anymore, and I no longer take the work phone home.
The next time I saw him he was so nice, he visited, went over the office, made some improvements, bought us all lunch.....it was great.
Then this week. I followed his orders, I texted him my hours every day from the office phone which I can only get access to when I am in the office (because I don't take it home anymore) My husband comes in yesterday afternoon (it was a bad one) Yesterday I went home at three. I get a phone call saying I need to go back to work there was a lady waiting to pick up her rental. Well there was no reservation on the schedule until tomorrow. But I loaded the kids back in the car, unlocked the fence and began making this ladies rental. Apparently the owners daughter had moved the reservation on a day I was off to Saturday we don't know why, but she would take not responsibility for her actions or say why she did it, but that it was somehow my fault. She is an 18 year old kid who had no business participating in her fathers business but she can do no wrong...and I was blamed for this misunderstanding. that was bad enough. I went to hook up this ladies rental she wanted a 6*12 trailer (if you have never tried to lift one they are so so heavy, I have even seen two grown men struggle with lifting one together) Anyway I have lifted one before though a few times. So I go to get this lady hooked up and I cant lift the trailer for some reason. I just couldn't do it yesterday...when we finally get it lifted it wont sit down on her trailer ball for some reason. So I have her move to a different trailer thinking one was broken...same problem.....It took an hour and a half to get her set up and out of here....she became impatient because of the problems. I hurt my back lifting the different trailers so many times, and the stupid trailer part fell on my finger and smashed it and I was bleeding everywhere. I felt embarrassed , incapable, and I was physically hurting as well. The icing on the cake was some people showed up to have a car released to them and here I am in tears and bleeding, can't get help to get the stupid trailer hooked up and six women are in my office to pick up one car. My finger was bleeding and hurting so bad that I could not even get the work phone out of my pocket to resolve the impounded car release issue. And then the lady is still coming in to tell me to quit standing there and get her trailer hooked up...never mind the blood dripping from my hand right.
So my poor husband finally shows up to help, but by then I had gotten the lady, the trailer, and the impounded car all out of here. he has no paycheck for me. My boss had decided after all this time he needs me to do some kind of special paper for him in order to get paid. I am the only one that has to do this. What am I supposed to think. I told Jimmy I texted from work each day my hours. To me it says he is implying that he does not trust me. And he is accusing me of still stealing time or something. So if my boss does not have a paycheck for me today, after all of the crap I have endured, worked hard to go out of my way to get his customers taken care of...we are the only ones now to work this office, my husband and I have agreed that I will quit. I want to wait till hubs gets his truck fixed because there is stuff here that I need to take home. We payed for the fridge and microwave here and replaced the stools. I don't want to give my boss anything for free at this point. I feel like he is an emotional abuser , like he likes to play games being nice one day and mean the next. The extra money is nice, we had an epic summer of activities with no guilt. Bills are paid, a tiny bit of money saved, but we are unsure if it worth the extra bull I am having to deal with. Hubs and I are praying.
I hope everyone had a better ending to their week.
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